Reciprocally it has a characteristic. Family notes Features between families
The thorny and ambiguous path to achieving family happiness. Compliance appears as a friend and father's harmony in someone who, based on various psychological patterns, initially friends and father's behavior, as it was supposed, takes revenge on internal conflict , contradiction. Sometimes it is enough to suffer one slight deterioration at the same time as another problem, as behind the principle of circular causation, problems collide one on one, growing like a snowball. It is impossible to unravel the tangle of family problems by pulling just one thread. It is necessary to change all internal family mechanisms.
A disharmonious family union interferes with the implementation of the power of friends and individual interests. The family is truly being transformed into some kind of theater, where there is no doubt that the role is imposed, alien, or performed by the family union.
In this section I would like to attract the respect of the readers to the analysis of certain unpleasant types of hundred-year-olds they have. It should be noted that in a number of descriptions, the peculiarities of buyers, even though the situations themselves are grotesquely amplified. This makes it possible to clearly understand the causes of family disharmony and establish connections between different types of family situations. We suspect that such an analysis will allow readers to find some relief in their family life, both from a friend’s and from a father’s perspective.
Calls of "calm family"
This process flows smoothly, from the side you can see that the bearings of its members are ordered and comfortable. However, upon closer acquaintance, it becomes clear that the man and the squad feel a sense of dissatisfaction, weariness, and their life is accompanied by the gift of wasted fate. They rarely talk one after another, although they want to stereotypically, often with a touch of pedantry, tie up their friendships. In such family situations, one can talk about the predominance of a sense of certainty over spontaneity and the breadth of centuries. Behind the prosperous “façade” one has been hovering for a long time and strongly suppressing the negative ones, almost one after another. The flow of emotions is often fatally influenced by self-esteem, resulting in a mood that is susceptible to persistent disruption, and one often feels tired and powerless. Trivals of bad mood, depression, and depression often occur.
Volcanic family
This family's drains are leaky and open. Girlfriends constantly get along with each other, often break up and go out, make troubles, get into arguments, so that they love tenderly and find out in love until the end of their lives, again they put themselves one by one generously and selflessly. And here spontaneity, emotional non-mediocreness take precedence over the appearance of authenticity. You might think that another type of family pants is “healthy,” but that’s not entirely true. The truth is that “eliminating aggression”, easing situational stress, will not always bring real relief. Lyudina, who has shown an overly negative feeling, is embarrassed by her boss, feels guilty, is afraid of falling out in
in a funny position, afraid of condemnation - in this way, an accumulation of tension and negative experiences occurs.
What does such a family climate mean for a healthy child? Please respect this and that other type of unfriendly. True, the negative inflow is different for each type of episode. If the children in the family are based on the preservation of visible goodwill, which attracts irreconcilable rubrics and mutually negative feelings, the child becomes hopeless. His life is reminiscent of the unknown sensations of constant anxiety, the child senses insecurity, but does not understand his goal, lives in constant tension and is not in the mood to relax. Whose senses have critical eyes, the fortune tellers seem to be less important for the child. However, in turbulent families, the emotional atmosphere of which pulsates between extreme poles, children recognize significant emotional demands. Welding between fathers arises in the eyes of the child of catastrophic proportions, and this tragedy threatens the very foundations of the stability of the child world.
In such a manner, the fathers want to make sure that they do not value their friend's hundred, the specific emotional atmosphere of the family gives a steady influx to the child’s characteristics
Even in these two types of families, one can be aware of the peculiarity that always accompanies disharmonious relationships. Vaughn lies in the appearance of inertia, stereotypy of hundred-year-olds. Once and again a spontaneously evolving style is fixed and forever becomes permanent. How can we explain such stability, which seems so surprising to us that people throughout their lives change greatly and experience new experiences? Why are family tables inert?
This fact can be explained simply. As a rule, the vibrating stereotype of the love creaks with a singing world, promoting its stability, although not on a harmonious basis. Therefore, if you try one of your friends, change the style of spilkuvanya and often stick with the support of your partner. To harmonize the drainage of the family, the necessary sleep information is required. One psychologist has the following image: “Slouch can be equated with posture: as soon as the back begins to stoop, then the additional stoop may be eliminated in order to rest the head in a straight position.” Whenever one partner changes, certain additional changes must be made so that the relationship maintains stability and integrity. In fact, the position of one of the friends consistently evokes the typical type of relationship in the family as a whole, and for the former family stereotype, it is not enough to change into one of the participants in the family stake.
"Sim'ya-sanatorium"
A typical example of family disharmony is the type of family that can be described as a “sanatorium”. One of the friends, the emotional state of which is revealed by anxiety in front of too much light, which can be caused by depression and anxiety, creates a specific constraint, a barrier to new information. This kind of protection makes it possible to reduce anxiety in the face of the insignificance of the world. At the university, all members of the family, children, and children are gradually involved. The friend’s behavior gives the appearance of a “resort”; they are wasting money on their own collective self-deception. The friend spends the entire hour together and tries to raise her own children. Attempts at such separation are perceived as a threat to the very core of the family, a gradual exchange of conflicts occurs, contacts with friends change, usually driven by changes in views and values. The family “almost seems united, in the depths of the valleys there is an alarming presence of one of the partners. The union becomes not completely friendly, but symbiotically separated. This means that one of the members of the family, Both adults and children can use it, between their bonds, family members unite in this special situation about him, protect him from difficulties, protect him from strong enemies. Often, when the family protector will be around an adult member with They are, invariably, taking away any benefit , for example, sometimes with such a position, one and the other will unwittingly take revenge on the other, as if seemingly: “You were so ruthless before me, and now I suffer so much that you need to ask for support.” The position of children in such families becomes r Izna. In this case, if the family turns into a “sanatorium” for the mother or father, the children need to reduce unnecessary stress, as they feel that the mother’s love will not be accepted for a long time. and robots, it is often fateful to live in a physical situation that nervous obsession, become deeply anxious and emotionally stale, preserving with this warmth, love and turbotivism to the fathers. The fragments of the unknown meta of one of the friends - the morning work and the turbo of the other, the child cannot compensate for the lack of work on the side of the godly, the hungry with the fathers.
In these episodes, when brothers and sisters, as well as other relatives, grandmothers and grandfathers, go to the “sanatorium”, the family
The child’s position changes. Interaction with this turbo, internal drains lead to a permanent fixation of respect for health, correction of all insecurities, slander. The need to care for the child in the family leads to the discreditation of family values, the importance of the child, its friends and forms of behavior during the hour. Friendly supervision, tight control and supernatural protection from real and obvious problems are characteristic signs of the development of children in “sanatorium” type families.
Such father’s positions lead to either an extreme importance of the child’s nervous system, for which neurotic eyes, emotional characteristics are blamed on the basis of heightened sensitivity, tactfulness. With advanced control and options in children, especially in sublime vitsi, reactions to protest and the need for an early exit from the family are growing.
The focus on one person is to bring to the attention of the health of all members of the family, in which case the children may develop a fear of getting sick, which in such unpleasant situations can lead to the formation of a particularity in which turbo about health is in full swing the nature of the superordinate activity.
"Sіm'ya-fortetsya
The boundaries of a family stake with internal disharmonious connections characterize another type of family. This species can be called "forteci". The basis of such alliances is based on learned concepts about the threat, aggressiveness and cruelty in the world, about hidden evil and people as bearers of evil. Often such manifestations are reinforced by the need to eliminate negative emotions in the family and between them. In the case of mutually intolerable enemies, the impulses in the sphere of supporting the stability of the world are transferred to the external world by means of: on certain individuals, groups of people, and other forms of light. In such families, there is a lack of understanding, so that the friend’s internal problems can be translated. Knowing about their micro-light, the friend sprinkles the absent with carved docors, which they would unwittingly want to direct one on one or often on themselves. Nerydko in such siM'ykh to finish the marvelous one -sidedly vascular, re -focus is the environment, postpovo vinica, the nursing fanaticism, the sophistication of the pierces of the reagnis of the realist. The friend's expression is due to the increased intensity of the feeling of "Mi". The stench seems to be psychologically hostile to the whole world. Behind such behavior there is often evidence of underlying psychological tendencies that naturally hold the family together. “Cola defense” is an unknown camouflage of mental emptiness or destruction of sexual veins. Often in such families, one is wary of the unguarded dominance of one of the fathers and the other, the passive status of the other, all family life is strictly regulated and ordered by simple goals, the ossified fixation of old family roles creates there is a visibility of internal family solidarity and friendship, at the time when emotions have changed, the emotional atmosphere In the middle of the family, natural warmth and serenity are reduced.
The placement of children in such a family is also strictly regulated; the need to encircle the ligaments of the family leads to strict fixation of all
early, before the decree of strict rules, which declaratively explains the need for turbo work about the next baby. There are families whose spiritual vigor is childish, the callousness of one of the despot-fathers is soon compensated by the hyperopicity and frivolous turbochargedness of the other. However, the need to attach the family to the side of a light father makes the guard inconsistent and reduces emotional openness and breadth.
In families of the “forte” type, love for the child becomes more and more of an intellectual nature; the child is loved only if the family stake is truly placed on her. This means that you will benefit from the increased Vlasnytsky component from the emotional affection of the fathers. The fathers love not so much the child itself, as much as they generate family positions that impose on the child the image of “I”. The bathroom fills with tasks, the fathers are trying to find themselves and are properly supported, extremely important. Such a family atmosphere and type of education lead to an increase in the child’s ineptitude, to lack of initiative, and sometimes lead to protest reactions and behavior behind the type of obstinacy and negativity. In many cases, the concentration of the child’s respect on its internal experiences is fixed, which leads to its psychological isolation, which causes difficulties when paired with one-year-olds. I am trying to put the child in a super-sensitive position, a situation of internal conflict caused by the inconvenience between the father’s strength and the child’s imperious satisfaction. Constant internal conflict leads to overstrain of the child’s nervous system, creating a risk of neurotic illness.
"Sim'ya-theater"
Another example of family disharmony may prompt the family to contribute to the theater. Such families undermine the stability of a specific “theatrical life.” Sometimes members of the family play alone before one performance, sometimes the whole family forms into one ensemble, which plays before the departing songs. At the center of respect for such families, there is always a game and an effect. What is being said here is what is being timid, what is being expressed emotionally - in which case it is not at all important to what extent, to what extent, what really stands behind this or that behavior. A necessary immediate response, a reaction that encourages the continuation of such theatrical activities. As a rule, one of the friends in such families senses a strong need for familiarity, constant respect, desire, love, and also senses a deficiency of love.
The entire construction of this scenario is unlikely to serve as a defense against awareness of the illusory nature of the colossal manifestations, the unconventional misconceptions that have come to pass in our lives. "Family Theater" calls to preserve the appearance of well-being and maintain the necessary close distance. When you are on the fence with children, your desires are quickly declared and also quickly forgotten. Demonstrated to outsiders, this turbot about the child does not stand up as the children quickly feel that their fathers have no time for them, that their forfeiture of their father’s obligations is a formal necessity, which is imposed by social other standards.
Often in the “family theater” contacts with children, respect for their life, are replaced by the care of special material minds. Fathers buy a lot of toys, special equipment for children. The knowledge of the sky is being verified child's cage, schools and other large organizations, children are given “fashionable” education, they wear different clothes, study language and music.
The theatrical way of living in a family often suffers from a special stage of childishness, connected with the efforts to take advantage of shortcomings and inadequacies, to cover up difficulties with a demonstration of obvious advantages and achievements. This only leads to weakening of self-control and loss of internal discipline. The intense closeness with the fathers forms a natural directness of specialness.
"Simya is the third lord"
Another example of disharmonious problems can be found in this family, to the psychological essence of which the name “third wave” fits. It arises in situations when the special characteristics of a friend and the style of their mutual relationship become especially significant, and fatherly friendship is unexpectedly perceived as a barrier to the friend’s happiness. This happens with the psychological immaturity of one or both fathers, with the unpreparedness of their special development for the development of father’s functions. This is how the style of drawing from a child blames itself on the source of hostility. In the practice of family counseling, such families are often damaged, there may be a number of children, and, at the same time, emotionally significant, they are deprived of friends. Often, in contacts with children, fathers are quick to instill in children a sense of inferiority, without end "fixing respect for shortcomings and lack of maturity. Not such rare occurrences of supernity between a still young mother." with her and her growing daughter, the unknown struggle for love and affection for children. innocence in oneself,
lack of initiative, fixation on weaknesses, children of power and painful experiences of power inferiority with increasing laziness and subordination to their fathers. Vinyl's staleness weighs heavily on adults, thereby provoking the intensification of the recruited abandonment. In such families, children often worry about the life and health of their parents, it is important to endure temporary separation from them, and it is important to adapt to children’s groups.
Family with an "idol"
It is necessary to expand the type of disharmonious families. The exchanges between family members lead to the creation of a “family idol”, if the child’s education is one, which brings together the friends, if the child’s turbo is transformed into a single force, so as to kill the fathers one by one. The grievances of the father are placed with great respect on their child, transferring their unrealized problems onto the child. In the child, miracles of self-sacrifice and sacrifice are created, in the child, all the problems of adult people are extinguished. The child is the center family, becomes an object increased respect and guardianship, protected fathers. The least wealthy people are inevitably satisfied with real and obvious advantages. The need to protect one’s child from life’s difficulties leads to a loss of independence, which is accompanied by a significant tendency to increase The growth of the child, as a result of the change in guardianship, threatens the rupture of the family group. pi. Here the least sick and ill children are overflowing, and they are seen in the minds of delicacy, kindness, zagal burying and disenchantment. Pos-
It’s better to force the need to repay the “vineyard” for its attention to the child. Due to such treatment, children become dependent, activity is wasted, and spontaneity is weakened. At the same time, the need for positive assessments is growing, children are being spoiled; Exposed from the outside world, mingling with one-year-olds, where the child does not give up the required high grades, become a source of new and new experiences. Vigorous recognition at any cost will generate demonstrative behavior. Critical awareness of those in power is replaced by negative assessments of others, including the injustice and cruelty of others.
"Sim'ya-masquerade"
The failure of life goals and friendship plans gives rise to a type of family that can be called a “masquerade.” Living their lives according to values, which in different ways are understood as “serving various gods,” fathers place their children in a situation of various advantageous and disadvantageous assessments. The marriage brings about inconsistency, and the world for the child appears in different, sometimes super-happy sides. The minuteness of “masks” gives rise to a feeling of anxiety. The inconvenience of the father’s actions, for example, the father’s ability to cope with hyperstress and the forgiveness of the mother, screams the corruption of the child and the splitting of self-esteem. Defensive claims, when combined with insufficient knowledge and volitional tensions, give rise to internal conflict and stagnant nervous overexcitation.
Descriptions of the types of family disharmony highlight the complexity of internal family life and the deep interconnections of all sides of family interaction.
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Action (sympathy, affection, closeness) characterizes the most optimal, harmonious friendships. In addition, there is a deep desire for another person (sympathy), respect for the rightness of a person, his interests, skill, specialness, so-called “difference”; Competence in maintaining optimal tires is recognized by equal moisture performance. Intimacy with a person evokes a multiplicity of sensations, including both intimate intimacy with mutual satisfaction with sexual intercourse, and spiritual intimacy, which is understood as the origin of perception and understanding of spirits This world, the internal logic is felt by people and people.
Lost love (liking, affection, but not lack of intimacy) can result in a situation of dissatisfaction with intimate life, if the lack of intimate intimacy turns into a defect in psychological intimacy. This model of family disharmony is clearly analyzed in the studies of sexologists. In such outbursts, wives experience a loss of feeling of love for a person, there is twitchiness, quick temperament, which provokes and aggravates internal family conflicts.
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Let's get started. What kind of father's love is there and why bother raising children?
Bathered b, the daddles of the dad I love my ditin Behakim: I rumor il non-voyage, beautifully, we are in a good way, we’ll be at the same way, we’ll be closed ... Tobto Love Ditini to the Batkive I was not good. It’s not for nothing to say: “We don’t rob fathers!” Alas, it’s a pity that the Mitzi, who created a creation that does not correspond to their findings, will throw it into a distant place or know, I see that disappointment in myself.
You will say: “The same... The child is neither a painting nor a poem!” So, the child doesn’t speak, but, that’s no less, she’s nothing less than the father of her father! The artist contributes everything he can to his creation: talent (that is), soul, hour, money, health. What should the father invest in his child? And the same - Father’s talent, soul, hour, health, money... and so much more! It seems to me that the painting is much richer than the artist.
Much has been said and written about mad love, but there are not many people who can love so much, because in the family they grew up in, they were loved for their intelligence, listening, cheerfulness, kindness, honesty, beauty...
Oh, and where do these children fight? In truth, they were not loved (or they were given in, why not love them) for their emptiness, disobedience, negligence, for bad badges at the school... What for? And each one for his own! Who among you has not felt unloved and sickly?
Why should I say this? possessed of garish behavior, Father's farm? We can’t save our fathers and think that their children might become disappointed in them, in their fathers, and throw up their time?
Dear dads!!! Can your child have any clues about these unacceptable people of power? And let’s take a look at the different types of interaction in the family, which is how the child’s specialness is formed!
Diktat! After the fall of the USSR, we all learned what “authoritarianism” was! Can these families do the same? Maybe? What about it? Well, that’s right - as long as all the members of the family completely subordinate themselves to the same people: fathers, mothers or grandmothers (I rarely feel sick). This person is both punishing and kind, he decides who is to be bothered, who wants to talk to him. It means where to study, what profession to whom (what profession will the representatives of the younger generation have), and a lot more. Whoever has a “dictator” in their everyday life understands what is going on.
The “dictator” behaves this way only out of kind sponkals, love for his loved ones - that’s what I think. I truly take responsibility for my life, for my future. You will always know how and what happens. We are trying to make sure that we will be lost without someone, to make amends... It is acceptable to say that everything is just whispers, “walking on your feet.”
It’s especially bad for this family of children. Why? And besides, the dictator stifles her initiative, does not allow her to develop a sense of dampness, independence, and activity. You can allow yourself to image and belittle someone who dares to super-read you. Getting used to it, it’s crazy! People talk about this, sometimes: “I’m tired of going to the store!”, or “I’m tired of washing the dishes!” A child in such a family will have to relinquish the right to vote in those matters that particularly affect her interests: should she wear the clothes that her father buys for her, should she go to the sports section that her father has chosen for her ko chi mati. You may be prevented from making friends with this or that other friend, only the one who does not belong to a “dictator”, whose talents develop beyond those noted by his father. I can play music, sing, play the violin, etc. You can see what kind of musician he will turn out to be!
Hyperopic-Riznovidu diktat. Only the “dictator” wills punishment and violence, and the “guardian” “disturbs” the members of the family with supernatural turbochargedness and demonstrative love. For the new government's manipulations, it seems like a crime, it feels like a liability. “Guardian” – the biggest complaint in the family – “no one loves anyone, no one knows about him, no one respects him, everyone thinks only to themselves, and only one person loves everything and protects everyone.” It’s difficult!” Vin vimagai love and self-respect, confirm your “self-delivery of love”!
In truth, both the “dictator” and the “opicon” speak, first of all, about their peace. Why should we bother ourselves and think about what our loved ones feel when the stench suffocates them with its orders and supernatural turbo? It’s calmer and calmer if everyone can hear them, no one can be stopped if everyone stinks as much as they want! They (both the “dictator” and the “guardian”), in fact, have the same interests and experiences of those who, as it seems to them, are in control.
Already too early, “authoritarianism” is gaining support both in the state and in this family! Most often, the hot opera burns on the side of children! From the very beginning of the stench they begin to lie, to deviate, to be disingenuous. The world is an adult child, she can suffer from rudeness, anger, leaving the house... It happens that the rebel recognizes the defects, his work is broken. There is nothing to be happy about, because at the same time the evil will is supported by the will, faith in oneself, in one’s ability; formation of an inferiority complex, caused by serious harm to the child.
And if in the first episode (if the operation is not broken), a worm’s “dictator” or “opicon” grows up, then in the other (if the child has managed to strangle) there will be absolutely powerless, non-initiative, sir specialness. Most of all, the life of such people is accompanied by a string of misfortunes, both in the professional and family spheres. Might as well spare me, and at the same time in my life, the “other half”, as I will bear the burden of responsibility for my life... Or, more likely, you sleep - who needs such a thing? It’s rare that someone can love for no reason, just like that!
And now the food: why did the dads hope for such a result?
Of course, no! The stinks are disappointed in their child, the stinks demonstrate everything to you. This behavior is killing them! Don’t be fooled by your child like an artist of a distant painting! The stench appears as if something new is happening, and sooner it becomes stronger.
Another food: what, having become fathers, can people who grew up in such families give their children?
And especially those who are toiling! They haven’t learned to love and appreciate their loved ones, they haven’t learned to spoil the thoughts of other people! One will impose his will on the members of the family, and the other will be evil and will be in order!
What is strictness? What is the method of strangulation?
Consciousness is a reasonable approach, thinking about goals in a specific situation. This is the vikhovannaya zvichki upgrading of huge norms, laws, morals! This is not violence against individuality, not strangling the will and initiating. Selfishness is not dictatorship and not hyperopicism!
What is this punishment? What, obov'yazkovo derogation of human worthiness? What kind of “welding” do you imagine?
Having tried the punishment, the child must understand that she has made amends, she must realize that she was wrong - otherwise the punishment will be marna! He is guilty of overconverting himself, even if he continues to suffer from such indulgences; he allows himself to avoid something even more important in life. And above all, we can sing that we have the right to pardon and correction!
Self-righteousness and punishment, which are correct, are perceived by children as justice, motivated by the need to “give a lesson,” and not as a matter of cruelty or too much!
This type of mutualism is commonly called "democratic". Here there is a one-on-one relationship, and the right to a kind voice of all family members, and the mother of one’s interests and hoards, so as not to cause concern for loved ones and, especially uninteresting people, and the right choice of profession. Here children are helped to develop, to grow like individuals! In such families, the age and intelligence of the skin member of the family is respected, as if it were a child. This is where “supply” and mutual assistance come into play. From such families come good, smart people who work in a team, charismatic leaders, successful businessmen... These are the children their fathers write.
Another type of mutualism, similar to anarchy. In psychology they usually call it "permissive". There may also be different options:
- “Dictate on the spot,” if fathers follow the lead of their children and submit to their will. The dictates of the child, from the beginning, the fathers sense, they want such behavior from the child. In the growth of an atmosphere of permissiveness, “whether the child was quiet or did not cry!” You should love your fathers as a way of satisfying your needs, if you become independent, having achieved wealth in power by any means, as a rule, for the sake of others, you can forget about your fathers forever.
- “Nevtruchannya.” This is true because the fathers believe that “we have our own life, and the children have theirs!” Children, who may be involved in the life of adults, are in charge of their affairs and decisions, and fathers allow their children to fuel their lives. , criminal gangs... Sometimes from such children, independent leaders who strive for “their own work and reason” grow up! But, as a rule, they are soulless cynics who cannot love and appreciate loved ones, including friends. About such people it seems like “Vulitsya was crazy”!
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With deep respect and respect for love and mutual understanding, Lyudmila Astakhova.
Anton and Vlad
Anton: I really like Vlad that he knows how to think critically and not follow the lead. The axis of all ears was overwhelmed by the accumulation of selfies, and Vlad was still a stranger. You can watch the process from the outside, think about what you need, joke like a sense. The price appeals to everyone. He is versatile, creative, and goes to the theater studio every hour. Sometimes we try to speak English to each other.
Vlad: I play games on English language. And at school English is boring. I love everything vivchati. I would like to learn how to cook. I have all my favorite herbs. I just don’t like cookies and semolina.
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Victoria and Olena
Olena: We get together, we walk. We go to the store together. I need Vika to help me with my problems. I know bad things about pennies, I value them badly. She explains it to me, I’ll remember it. When pennies appear in me, I’m talking about this Vika. It’s like: “Don’t waste them, we’ll go buy the groceries at once.”
Victoria: I feel that Olena is mine close people, part of my life is important. Having escaped from it, I began to accept the situation and not feel jealous of the situation. Because, if there is such a sense of well-being in you, and the stench does not stop, disappointment will soon set in. I understand that since you have been alive for seventeen years in such minds, you cannot change in such a short period. Well, if everything has changed dramatically!
Photo: Oleksandr Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material from the project "Names"
Tetyana and Lera
Tetyana: At first, this kind of spitting seems strange, unique: you need to gel a few times a day, joke around with those... And now I just feel like spitting with Lerka! Our little sisters quickly outgrew our natural friendship. It’s simply amazing that we knew the same thing! Our couple is like an apple.
Lera: Tetyana is my true friend. Naturally, I have friends in a boarding school, but initially one friend went to Italy, then a friend... I practically didn’t lose any close friends. In sixth grade we were transferred to primary school, and it was difficult to adapt. From “home children” the hundred-year-olds did not develop that way. We couldn’t understand one thing alone. Shiro seemingly, I don’t know why. I think they stink, they didn’t respect us, the children of Budynka.
Photo: Oleksandr Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material from the project "Names"
Marina and Veronica
Marina: I really admire the “Threads of Friendship” team! The project already has a step-by-step approach to selecting pairs: from the moment the training is completed until the pair is confirmed, more progress can be made and more progress can be made. The curators talk about ensuring that adults and children fit each other as closely as possible. Regular meetings are held for mentors. Formally, a foster care provider can provide a child with at least two years per week. Ours and Veronika's friendships quickly grew into I will honor my friendship, So there’s nothing left to do after an hour.
Veronica: Sprinkling with Marina changed me radically: I started being open-minded, became more singing, smiling, more direct. The teacher started thinking about entering university. I graduated from the Kedishka College, acquired a specialty as a wood inlay artist, and now I have entered the Faculty of Philosophy and Social Sciences before BDU. Vichaty psychology. Maybe I'll join someone's team social project on the “Thread of Friendship” kshtalt. Psychological assistance is also needed by everyone who has suffered a difficult life situation.
Photo: Oleksandr Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material from the project "Names"
Vira and Mikita
Mikita: When I started to get involved with Vera, I became wiser. Becoming more likely to react differently. Faith reveals what is required to live. They started us at school, but it’s hard to be alone. I’ve already learned how to cook soup and make naval-style pasta. I buy potatoes, pasta, carrots, cabbage, and soup mix myself. Vira sent me a photo, as if everything was working.
Vira: There are moments when you have to rush to help with a saber ahead of time! Children like Mikita trust everyone. I say: “Mikita, don’t give anyone a passport!” Without giving wine. Just a few days ago I was calling him, they took him by the hand, took him to the office of the cashier operator and issued two cards for him. In the office it was clear that there were not two, but several. It appears that they can be exploited for illegal IP telephony and hacking. We closed these cards. Well, you will hear from me about this not immediately, but after a second month!
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I love you, my beloved readers. Today I am talking about those who interact in a family, like friends who interact one with another. Communication between partners is one of the main speeches in family life. It depends on who the role is, how close the friend is and honestly, one by one, lie in her happy future.
A new stage in life
Having a family is a serious step forward for a woman and a man. It’s just that getting together is far from the same as living together, leading a family life, dividing the budget, having children and much more.
Friendships can develop Various options mutual The division of the supremacy is who makes personal decisions, who makes money, who deals with home affairs. It’s best to discuss all this food on the birch tree. Of course, the process can be affected by food. Golovne, get home.
It turns out that in the process of family life, friends can change roles. There is nothing terrible in this. Perhaps, for this stage it will be better. Sometimes the woman takes the lead in the family and keeps everyone ahead. There is nothing bad about someone who lives like this.
Life is unexplored and introduces all new experiences in our life. We prepare the buti as hard as we can. The truth from the most chosen person can always be transferred to what will happen next. It is also important that each person and team should be close to each other and be ready to help and lend their shoulder. If friends work together as a united front, then no difficulties are scary.
Partners
One of the options for family interaction is affiliate networks. The psychology of such tactics lies in the equality of friends. Both the man and the squad are of equal value and equal importance to everyone. It’s a shame to work, because it’s important and there is no option, because the profession is one serious and valuable.
Both people and squad are engaged in domestic affairs. To each person according to his ability, as it seems. It’s the same with a child. It’s a shame that fathers take an active part in the care of their children.
When important decisions are made in such a family, then both partners sit at the negotiating table and eat in such a manner that the result controls both. Perhaps, you decide to take up additional coins, food is not in your mind. Golovne – equal rights. Outside for friends. It stinks business partners, how to go on instructions.
Such a family doesn't have enough food - who's the devil? There is no debate on the topic: why do you make such important decisions without me? If one day one of the partners may want more control, there will be tension in the carpet, welding and scandals. To unify this, you need to clear it up. If the decision is difficult, put it down. Give yourself and your partner an hour to think.
It is not necessary to have such an option due to constrictions. Maybe it's more possible. So be prepared to talk about those you work with if such a story happens in your homeland. Prepare ahead of time.
Tractor and trailer
In my opinion, the widest vehicles are tractors and trailers. When one of the partners leads, and the other follows. It’s not a fact that the tractor will be a man. I have met a lot of couples in which the wife herself, directly following her partner, makes all the important decisions, takes care of the budget, etc.
Sometimes such youngsters can look like a man of the head, but in reality the squad is like a gray cardinal. She still praises important decisions. She instructs the squad on how to deal with this or that situation. The battle can be waged both in the open air and behind the lashtunks.
In such veins it can be difficult to figure out who is truly the head. The woman can now work in such a way that the man thinks that he is the boss. People rarely do things like this. Such games no longer exist.
These hundred years allow other people to easily shift responsibility to others and live without bothering themselves. Just go where you want to go. It also happens that the leader gets tired, laments, and feels like a crisis. And here the food is stationed - how can another person take on the role of a tractor?
If you can’t, then your friends’ happiness will be in jeopardy. Even if it’s just the trailers, the stinks stand on the site and can’t collapse anywhere. And if another person can take on the role of the leader, then the members will be more valuable and become even stronger. Adje helped in a critical moment at a time of need. It’s easy to get help if it’s all right.
Father that child
Another option for developing a family scenario could be the roles of father and child. When an older man looks for a young girl to become her father, mentor, mentor. Or, by the way, if a woman wonders about her son, about whom we keep an eye and keep an eye on everything.
There is nothing nasty about such behavior. If there is a need, then why not. Golovne, so to speak, made friends. If both of them are satisfied with their family life, then prosperity and happiness will flourish.
With the appearance of a healthy child, the situation may change. The one who, having tried on the role of a child, can grow up, change his light sensitivity and become more reliable and serious. The child makes a lot of difference in people’s lives. This includes a role as a friend.
Such drains have more than just a friend's hand. As long as one of the partners plays the role of father, then the notes show a hint of father’s or mother’s love. The psychology of such behavior is found in any father or child. Stars are important to say. For a more in-depth analysis, it is necessary to log in to the work with the fakhivts.
If your friends are happy, it is absolutely not important to play the role of the stench. Father, partner, child, trailer or tractor. When a man and a squad hang around the house, almost alone, talk about your problems- the stinkers can patch everything up with their way.
Friends
They get caught in such a way that hundreds of hundred-year-olds grow out of friendship. People have known each other for a long time, been friends, and then suddenly a transformation occurs. And they realize that there is more than friendship between them.
Such notes may have a lot of pluses and minuses. And the actions of speech are subject to polarity. The partners have known one thing for a long time, they are aware of the past hundred years of their friend, situations could arise between them that showed the person in her true image. There is a lot to discover between. And from this it was not entirely clear.
How can you vikorist what you know about your friend if you are in the water? Why start everything from pure arkush? Why bother with friendly images? The new status brings new challenges and responsibilities.
The cordon between the friendship of a man and a woman and the love connection is so negotiable and insignificant that the partners themselves do not notice how their relationship is changing one to one. One glance is sometimes enough to realize that there is more intimacy and amor.
The containers are different, they all have their own characteristics. However, if the scenario turns out to be the same, the boxes still show their marks. To love one person, but everything else will work out. Nosrat Pezeshkian is engaged in active work under the name “Training for family centenaries. 33 ta 1 partnership form". Perhaps you will find a bunch of great thoughts there.
Have a great day!
Interact with the child in the family, which means their future behavior, the nature of their development and success, and why the children, first of all, learn from the family.
Type of mutuality between family and child
The influx of fathers into the peculiarity of the child is described and taught by psychologists to report. They could see 4 common types between father and children in the family:
- Indifferent;
- Authoritative;
- Authoritarian;
- liberal.
So how is it any other way, but in mutual relations between children and adults, we compete in childhood and in mutual relations with adult children.
The family's system of education is always learned from the fathers. In addition, because she is grounded in the difference between what is acceptable and unacceptable as a child, she must strive for the purpose of direct methods and for the purpose of education. The reason for the relationship between the family and the child may be:
- Spіvrobіtnitstvo;
- Nevtruchannya;
- Hyperopic;
- Dictate.
With dictatorship between children and adults, there will be a regular decrease in the child’s seemingly impatience, stifled thoughts and initiatives. Such notes cannot be compared with the method of learning or norms of moral behavior. Most often, the influx vibrates with violence, in a punitive tone with the support of the child. In response to the pressure on their father’s side, children, in their own way, respond with counterarguments - rudeness, deception, hypocrisy. Hatred for one’s fathers is the extreme reaction of the people.
The other side of the coin is that if the child’s life still indulges in evil, then it can turn out that thanks to the new growth of evil, specialness without a hint of dampness, spared such important qualities as independence, even more You don’t have your own capabilities. One can proudly say that the failures in the life of such a person lay the foundation for the laying of dictatorial influences even in childhood.
Overprotection imparts such relationships to families and children, from whom they are protected from difficulties and troubles. Whatever the bastard, the child is forced to swear, but she herself doesn’t put any effort into them. Often such cramps occur in families where the child is either single or long-term. Goals vortex inflows The training process is driven by the satisfaction of children's needs.
In case of hyperopia, mutual relations between children and adults lead to the fact that children are insufficiently or completely unprepared for an independent adult life. And while in childhood the manifestations may be minimal, then in the sub-children the frequency of vision in this category of children is significant.
Unconditional, so the tactics of training recognize the permissibility and necessity of the independent birth of adult children, and neither one nor the other goes beyond the mentally designated line. The fathers respect that the basis of such mutual relations in the family is the passivity of the fathers as captives.
Spousia in mutual relations occurs for the purpose of marriage and the assignment of fathers and children, for the evidence of similar interests and activities associated with them. Only for such minds can the egoism of a child be married to his mother and other relatives.
The influence of family relationships on the child’s behavior
Whether the child’s behavior is adequate or inadequate, it largely depends on the relationships in the family. Types of them to lie:
Families whose parents constantly succumb and bully, set even high goals and goals, have children with low self-esteem, as a result of which there is indifference and bad moods. Then the child’s behavior becomes inadequate to the objective situation.
On the other hand, inadequacy may manifest itself in the appearance of increased self-esteem, if the child is constantly praised, and the people before her are even soft.
As a result, the child is as tall as the father raised him as a child.