If you can leave a child at home alone? One budinka - batkiv pid court? Three skilki rokiv can be one house.
Spodіvaєmosya, everyone remembers the comedy "Alone at home", de little, zabuty at the pre-Svyatkovy metushny, spend a few days on their own. Krіm robіzhnikіv, yakim vіn daє vіdnu vіdsіch (let's write down this plot twist on the fantasy of screenwriters), vin sticks with the absence of other psychological problems, about yakі, vpevnenі, you didn't think about it.
Let's go and not in such an extreme way, but it's too early to reach independence and autonomy of your child. If you can try to keep a child at home alone? How safe is it? How to prepare a child for an independent hour?
Did you enter legally?
In legislation, do not sound the appointments of the century, if the child can be left alone at home. Vyyatkom, maybe, you can vvazhat the United States, de, as you know, the rules of power in the skin of the tripod. There, a century, sufficient for a depleted child at home, is counted from 7 years in Nebraska to 14 years in Illinois, but in America there are no such legislators in 35 states.
Most of the countries are regulated by the recommendations of the opiate authorities (depending on the age of 12-13 years).
If you don’t know the law, then you can leave a child at home for the sake of the people? I don't know.
First, in Criminal Code є Article No. 125: “For a long time, without the help of an individual, as if you are resting in a careless life, or a healthy one, and an increased ability to live, you go to self-sufficiency for childishness, old age, illness, or because of your own impotence” (punishment rock).
It should be noted that it’s just a lack of a child in an apartment - it’s not possible to understand “not safe for life and a healthy camp”, the shards of resting at home do not threaten a child, if you have left a baby closed for a day without water - you will be dealt with by the competent authorities .
And yet, more often, babies with a number of prosperous families suffer, as in the presence (and sometimes in the presence) of mothers and tata they get to good vicons, gas taps, sirnikiv, pigulok, butovo chemistry.
Whose mood is full of decency Articles No. 5 - 35 of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation: "Nevikonannya or not inappropriately vikonannya by the fathers, or other legitimate representatives of the incompetent obov'yazkіv shkodo utrimannya, vyhovannya, navchannya, defending the rights and interests of non-essential ones - pulling ahead of yourself, or imposing an administrative fine on the cost of hundreds of dollars."
Nareshti, as if you permanently leave the child in the house of one, and out there for years, that, naturally, calls out for the restlessness and the fear of the courts, the guards of the opika and pikluvannya come into the right
Article 77 RF IC: “Child's selection in case of an uninterrupted threat to the life of a child or to health. In the event of an unmediated threat to the life of a child, either to a healthy organ of the guardianship, that pikluvannya may have the right to negainally choose a child from the fathers (one of them), or in other cases, under the guardianship of such a person, to be known.
Here we are to blame for the fact that in Russian legal practice the clouding of the understanding of “immediately a threat to the life and health of a child” in article 77 of the SC is broader, lower in article No. In fact, it is a threat to the life of that healthy child without intermediary, the organs of opiate that, in the first place, “at an eye”.
However, if your child is calm and cheerful, does not suffer from hunger and sprag in your day, if you can’t reach vicons, knives, sirnikiv, gas stoves, then you don’t have a legislative exchange, as it would not allow you to leave your child at home. Therefore, rejoice in the vlasnym healthy mind!
How do you know that your child is ready to be left alone at home
Psychologists are convinced that there is no single age mark, if you can leave a child at home alone. Fortune-telling is more than 12-13 years - tse, shvidshe, vk, if the child is sufficiently socialized, having spent adequately in a potentially unsafe situation.
However, it’s true that one child, and in five years, will be calm, reasonable, and life is well-documented, to spend an hour at home. The second and the 10th and the 12th year are not ready to take responsibility for the safety of the water.
Try to determine the readiness of a child before spending an hour on his own to help a small test. Oh, your child...
While using the phone, can I dial your number and emergency numbers?
vmіє i love spend an hour on your own, can you take care of your rights, not screwing up your respect in the least year?
don’t have clearly pronounced phobias, don’t be afraid of darkness, chi potion?
Do you know that there are fences tied to games with unsafe items?
don’t apply calculus to yourself with ease?
do you have home shoes, how do you read them regularly?
know your daily routine and want to do it?
not vindictive, not vindictive, not shy to wield "sabotage" at the front of the fence?
If you answered “so” to everything, then, better for everything, you can try to keep the child at home. Keep in mind that the average child can be left at home for a year or more, starting from 7-8 years.
Potentially unsafe situations
Discuss from a child's perspective potentially unsafe situations. Podbyte, so that the new bool has a table with important phones.
Zirvalo crane (pipe burst)
Call you, call to the emergency service, turn on the electrical appliances, turn around for help to the courts, open the door, get out of the safe place.
Pozhezha
Leave the apartment and call to the burning part, if you can get ahead of the courts, get out as quickly as possible to the street, not crusty with the elevator. If it’s impossible to leave the apartment, then I’ll first phone to the burning part, and immediately lock myself up at the bathroom, blocking the doors with wet towels. Phone you, fill the bath with water and climb near the water, go wild through the cloth. Don't panic!
smell of gas
Leave the apartment and telephone to the emergency service. If possible, get ahead of the need for money (knock at the door, not ring!). I’ll immediately go to the street and call you by telephone.
Get over it, the kid knows the smell of butyl gas.
At the door, someone knocks and calls
Call you. It’s like knocking three, ask “who?” through the fastening of the door, not guiding the door. The doors can be opened, only as a visitor is well known to the child (relative, closest relatives) and ahead of the real trouble (pozhezha, the threat of vibuha).
If someone knocks at the door, don’t tell someone at the door that the father is not at home. Explain that the stench is tired and sleepy, that they turn from hvilini to hvilina (at the nearest shop, walk the dog).
If the visitor does not go, call the police.
” Do not deprive a child at home without the possibility of depriving an apartment! It's not safe!
Necessary skills for self-study at home
If you leave a child at home alone, she may have formed the minimum of butt's newcomers. Let go of yoga first, train the little one in the kitchen: you are guilty of dying, at least, learn to pour yourself a drink and prepare a simple snack (want a sandwich).
As if you are planning to leave the child for a long time (for example, a first-grader of a child for a year checks the house of your turn), count it with butt fittings - play it on the stove you have prepared, or in a micro-furnace oven. Vіn maє vmіti vіdrіzati bread, vіn mіti fruit, pour hot drinks.
” It’s necessary to show that you don’t plan to leave the child at home, all the same, it’s necessary to learn about your self-reliance, so for five or five years you can trust me to just help in the kitchen!
Alone at home - upstairs
Otzhe, vypershe vyrishili deprive the child at home alone. How tse robiti?
First, vіdluchka not guilty buti long time. Come up with a kudi and you can go for 15-20 whilin.
In another way, the child is guilty of intelligence, to control the situation, that in advance discuss with him the hour of your sight that turn. Miraculously, as if a child is already signifying an hour in years, but if it’s still bad to rob it - put marks on the dial.
Thirdly, figure out what the child will be business hours. Give him a new book or a toy, give him a task, like a hoot, but with whom you don’t call difficult.
To discuss obov'yazkovo again, why robiti is categorically impossible: open fire, go to the stove, fire with fire, fry with electric appliances - the list can be sorted out fallowly from the beginning of the day.
I, well, be on call!
Mom is back!
As much as possible, when you come home, you pour out milk (want to drink ...), broken potter for tickets (want to water ...) and a mountain of zukerkov wrappers. Nasampered - do not bark!
Vіdokremte situatsії scho to become a real nebezpeka, in view of the lack of hand and indiscipline of the child. If you see a burned-out flame on the table, put it on the first-aid kit, follow the revisions of your stocks of alcohol or cigarettes - deprive the child of one booth early, make the children of all your friends already absolutely autonomous.
” Do not be angry, like a child wanted, like a better one, but it was like “like a dream.” Remember that good yogo namіri not far off to buy the last, and reshta is just a food for training.
Nareshti, as if the child had destroyed an important, but not unsafe fence for life (here was the licorice, the TV was pointed out ...) - discuss with her again, why do you ask not to work those other words, and why it is important to listen to your prohan. And you, as a teacher, need to think about why the child pounced on the tsukerki, she turned on the TV. Perhaps, all the same, being afraid and trying to drown out fear? Maybe, you're too suvori, and spokus z'isti the daily dose of licorice bule is too large? Perhaps, child, be angry at your decision to deprive yoga at home and hooligan to harm you? It is obvious that your reaction is different in all three moods.
A child alone at home is a great restlessness for the fathers, but also a new equal of freedom, moreover, for mothers, and for children. It’s important to let the child in, but it’s necessary. Tell me about your dosvid navchannya children to self-sufficient rehab at home!
Prepared by Ganna Pervushina
Our readers shared their opinion, if it is possible to leave your child alone, and also gave recommendations, as if they wanted to do so, so that everything went smoothly and without incidents. You can take a look at again for a good deal.
Frame from the film "One House"
Up to six years: testing nerve cells by mom
First, I had a chance to deprive the donka, if she fell ill. She was 10 months old, she had a temperature, and the older one needed to be brought to school (at that time, she was already in the first class). She fell asleep for an hour when she left, the shards of the little ones are sleeping, I, out of my fear and risk, brought the elder. Thank God, nothing happened, and my heart went to five, but my beauty was still peacefully sniffing at her little bed.
A couple of times I lost a p'yatirichka for a year. Vіn buv іz phone. Skin 10 hvilin rang. It's been a miraculous hour, but my nervous cells are no longer inspired.
Sina was deprived of a lot of money for half a year and for three years at a time. Everything went well. At six fates, if you learn how to win, you can independently repair the road from school to home. Donka began to feel too much earlier - at three and a half roki for 30 strands per wound. Vaughn did a wonderful job. And yet, having stumbled upon the sociopaths from the liquid ones, and the problems were greater than the Dahu, and despite the fact that there is no law in Germany, it is written in which it is written, from such fates it is possible to leave children alone at home, - some recommendations of psychologists and teachers.
Literally this year, the eldest daughter of five years was deprived of one, she has an important sore throat, terminologically she needs liki, a small one - in a frame and a big one in a pharmacy. I turned on the cartoons of my love on the tablet and told me not to go to the door, but in an hour during the day - 40 quills - all blew up. Yakby is not such a need, then I wouldn’t have done it like that!
Frame from the film "One House"
Three Six Years: Getting Ready for School
Sin іz six rokіv zašivsya unhappily at home, while we walked with a man, for example, at the store, incrementally increased the hour, and the child was on the telephone. Oh somy, before school, I happened to be deprived of yoga for the whole day. I came to be less resentful. Ale had no problems: blue gulyav, grave home, reading or stink went to visit one to one with friends.
The eldest began to be deprived of one of the six fates. Getting ready for school. I went to school and then went to school myself. Everyone was allowed to work. Sound syn marveling TV chi grav at the computer. Mіg rosіgrіti sobі shchos і іkrohvilovіy kіvі. Called, fed, chim busy. She praised less than the first girls, then she stopped.
My child is six years old, I will deprive you of it for the fifth year, as if you need to go somewhere without it. They started from 15 hvilin, explained that it was impossible to work (we have especially under the fence - climb on the wall, sweat on the wardrobe), I will deprive you of the remote control, so that you can instantly turn on the cartoons, on your table - water and like sweets, so that you yourself do not lie. I didn’t take anywhere. I have long known about the sockets of the wines, I have been fixing and repairing the wines for a long time, I still can’t. But if I’m going all the same, I’m obviously boasting for the time being.
From the Seven Rocks: Developing Independence
From the seven rocks, they began to overflow. We have miraculous judges, to follow them (not so often beasts), the doors of their office, and ours (a sleeping vestibule for two apartments). Well, the phone is in order.
Three seven years, yak pishov in the first class. The back of the head was dark, obviously, but at the same time completely self-sufficient and eat it yourself, and suck it, and wash the wine, and wash the dishes after you, and even walk the dog every day.
Frame from the film "One House"
Don't forget everything to fall into vіd vіku
Sina was deprived of one already rocky іz chotirioh, ale unfortunate, zvіsno. Vіn is an independent lad, he is so calm. From six rokіv it is already a moment to go to the storeroom for bread. From 10 he himself walk to the perecarni. And the daughter vzagali can’t be left alone at home, but she’s alone! Not to the wind, not to the beat. You have to take it with you...
I think it is necessary for us to focus on the child herself. We have two blues: 11 and 7 years. The older one was taken away from home out of six (on the back of the head of an unfortunate and trimmed call on the phone), and the axis of the youngest was not left behind (just like with his brother). Perhaps, it’s just a “syndrome of the young”, everyone is afraid to let yoga “in adulthood” of life.
Statistics
Zgіdno z tim, which we spent among our readers, 42% of the fathers vvazhє that it is possible to deprive a child of one booth from seven rokіv. 21% - dorimuetsya thoughts, scho better trohi pіznіshe - from nine years. And the axis of 18% of mothers and tattoos is ready to leave one baby at home for five years. On food, for children to safely carry the keys to the booth, they voted in the main point “in a knapsack/backpack, de є special kishen for keys”. When looking at the children, the little ones are most ready to turn to their relatives and friends - 73%. The optimal hour for the attendance of grown-ups at the apartment for the results of voting is from the first year to the second year.
From what age can children be alone at home under the law?
Strictly seeming, in Russia there is no specific law, which regulates the same rebuking of children at home alone. However, establish other laws that may be extended to the last. First of all, vidpovіdalnіst we have come from 14 years. Tobto, from the moment of otrimannya passports. To that rebuvannya such a child at home alone, I do not threaten the fathers with anything out of sight of the law. In a different way, we can say “too much in the sky”. As if with a child up to 14 years old, misfortune traples at home, then the father should be brought to her. My practice is in a state of depression, if the seven-year-old girl was out of the window, resting at home. The Batkiv were dragged to the vіdpovіdality itself for the cієyu article.
Kirilo Rogov
lawyer
How to work so that everything went smoothly
If you talk about the guard, then it’s more common - so that the child has a call for you. Sob vіn vіn zavzhdі vіg you zatelefonuvati, yakschos to get away and blame the power. Another thing is to deprive you of your free access to that drink: it’s simpler, so it’s not necessary to heat on a frying pan, turn on the fire (bazhano). The third is to organize youmu dozvillya, so that youmu will spend their free time while you are not at home. For example, take an album, olives, start turning on cartoons, put some other toys on the spot, to bury it.
And also, as you understand by yourself - learn all the safety rules, say all the situations, which you can blame. Tell the child, you can help me out, the Crimean Batkiv - turn around to the courts, call the special services (numbers, obviously, the next number). Well, stop, my special thought, by no means can you stop a child and do not deprive him of the opportunity to come out. The new one has keys, and the wines can hold on to them. Maybe I'm a reinsurer, that raptom pozhezha? The first child is to blame for the mother's ability to immediately win. Obviously, it’s in the new key, you should learn it, that it’s impossible for the unknown to open the door, etc., but you should also enter the safety rules at the entrance.
3. Like knocking and ringing at the intercom - they don’t fit and don’t answer. If you suspected, then call the fathers.
4. Stilnikovy zavzhd і out of yourself. If there are no girls on the call, it will be bad: mother, tato, riot police, NATO will arrive, land and air transport will arrive from the police and firefighters, and for the most part, allow cartoons for three days.
5. Spend a style call on the tip, in great numbers on the landline telephone hang the numbers of the father and all services of the Ministry of Taxes and Duties.
Clear century, if mum can go, fakhivtsi are called only approximately. Shchob vyznachitisya, chi varto deprive the baby, it is necessary for the mother to take care of 2 rules.
The less an hour the little ones spend without their mothers on the first turn of life, the easier it is to let them go, having become the elder.
Up to eight months (and ideally, before the rock) the little ones better not be left without mothers more, less for a couple of years. At the same time, it’s important to know, because for your vidusnosti vins I was familiar with the situation and with a well-known person.
In the opinion of the American psychoanalyst Erik Erikson, before the fate of the children, the so-called basic trust in the world is formed. What does "basic" mean? Those who are the foundation for the development of a child feel like a thievery, trust that innocence in the fact that nothing bad will become of her. Children, like mothers, have taken enough respect and having shown goodness in the first river of life, then we become self-reliant. The world does not collapse at once with my mother's watch, anxiety does not grow, the stench is intoxicated, that it will obov'yazkovo turn around.
Flip, what type of likeness of formations in a baby. Even if your grace is healthy, you can walk boldly. You have nothing to be afraid of. As well as the type of sickness of the sick - do not hurry up.
The term “attachment” was coined by John Bowlby, an English psychoanalyst and family psychotherapist. Appropriation - tse intercourse by mothers and children, based on the fact that mother satisfies the needs of the little one at the kohanna and safety. As if it was far away, this type of vision is called “healthy pretense”. As if the little one is underestimated by the mothers of the necessary, a “painful sweetness” is formed in the new one.
How to recognize - what type of likeness has developed in your child?
You have enough to drink for a few years and respectfully watch out, like a baby, having reacted to your sight. On the right, in the fact that all the children may cry, if the mother is going. Any child psychologist will tell you that such a behavior is the norm. And the axis of those, like a child zustrіne you, and to help determine the type of pretentiousness.
Healthy cuteness. Malyuk start a mother's radiance, you can cry when you are separated from her, and be happy if you turn around. Whenever a mother goes, a child can be easily delivered on another occasion.
Painful sweetness. If the mother turns back home, the child either ignores the arrival, or starts to take revenge (bites, pinches, is rude).
What is work, what is your temperament?
- Don't sneer, for the hopefulness develops in the hour, and at the same time, the moment has simply not come, if the little one can calmly let you in.
- Do not bark the little one for tears, and do not reconsider Yogo, that it is wrong to break wine.
- Try to find out what is the reason for this behavior and respect for the coming moments: why don’t you look at the little one; chi do not nekhtuєte wi yoga interests; what are the consequences of your own vihovanni (for example, what do you always react to one and the same behavior).
Axis of evangelical minds, as it is necessary to take to respect:
Arguments FOR:
- You have a hope, you know well, and she has grown in love with a child, as if she is ready to be deprived of her for an hour of your admission. Ideally, tse kinsman, with such a little one is alive, or more than once having become overwhelmed, and tsі zustrіchі brought satisfaction with both.
- You have the ability to deprive a baby from your apartment, de vin live (on "your" territory).
The child already speaks and speaks her feelings, she can talk to you by phone or Skype.
You have already deprived the little one for a deaky hour, and if you turned around, you were far away from you, hung on your neck and rose, as if you had passed the hour.
You are tired and vysnazhenі, vіdchuvaєte, scho axis-axis “give”, as if progavte at once a chance to see family trouble.
Arguments AGAINST:
You look like a baby with breasts, or they pinned their birthday less than 2 months ago (when mothers saw those breasts that they huddled for an hour - it’s a serious stress).
The children have been growing up for 1.5 years. Starting from this moment, the new one has an exercise in independence, and the separation becomes less painful for the new one. In such a vіtsі it is already possible to explain that the fathers turn around, that the stench does not stop him forever.
If you turn to a child after a non-trivial day, you will ignore you and “take revenge” - bite, throw.
You tie the mats to the child yourself, so you can’t lie on the beach for a year without boasting about those who won’t buy those clothes for you. Even if you haven’t gone yet, you feel great, feel sorry for one thought about those who want to deprive a child.
The child knows badly the people, for which you choose to deprive. Ideally, I am guilty to pass if I want to spend a month when the stench starts to splurge.
The behavior of the little one changes greatly for your daily life. Vіn become aggressive, or weepy, otherwise, you might not fall into the vіchі at once, navpaki, “zavmiraє” and sit at the kutku for years. Yakshcho your vіd'їzd spіvpadє z period іkovoї crizi child (for example, crizi 3 rocіv), deprive the child nebazhano.
Maybe, we know the situation, if we need to leave the house for a couple of years, leaving the child on its own. Deyakі mothers walk calmly, being inspired by the independence of the child, and others do not know their own place, they are called the 10-fold child. If it is possible to leave the children at home themselves? How to ensure the safety of children and prepare them to the end?
We fill a child without sight - if?
Fahіvtsі stverdzhuyut, scho optimal vіk for such independence - sim rokіv. The future schoolboy has already been informed about those who can and cannot work, answer by phone and watch the father's messages. Ale semirіchchya - only an approximate landmark. It is also necessary to protect the child's individuality: temperament, peculiarities of behavior, impulsiveness and development of the child's habits.
You don’t need to give your own 5-6-year-old children, even if they gave some independent stench. The first hostilities often turn out to be wrong, and the little one, who is so feisty, will ruin the building in a force majeure situation. Fahіvtsі gladden to please in this decision not for a child's age, but especially for a mother's sense of the same intuition.
What do they say about the laws of the Russian Federation?
In the rich countries of Europe, there is a shortage of young children on their own, who have not yet completed 12 years, you can bring them to social service. In some states of the USA, up to 14 years old, it is necessary to take a babysitter from you or call home for the period of your stay.
Russian legislation does not transfer special borders and clear age-old cordonies, at the reach of which they have matured, they can deprive a child without sight. Be it your temper, only on you lies the whole burden of viability and you yourself will be virishuvati, if you want to vaccinate children to independence.
Re-checking for independence
- The child takes care of her rights for the second or two years and does not smack her own skin five times.
- Do not lakaetsya dark and closed space: play in the child behind the locking of the door and the building fall asleep without light.
- Knowing the limits of what is permitted and the rules of safe conduct, you do not need to repeat what you cannot approach before the end of the day, but to speak out of ignorance.
- It is inspired to make calls by means of a call: by home and mobile phone, "ICQ", Skype.
- You hand over to you the singing of shoes (get into the room, cover it lightly, look out), you successfully cope with such wines.
- You do not control your skin yoga, guessing about those who need to pick up toys and lie down to sleep.
- Vin knows the numbers of the emergency services, and you will be able to confirm the call for a free weekly call.
- You can turn for help to the courts and other close people in case of any problem.
- It doesn’t seem like your mother is doing yoga on her own and understanding the reason for your employment.
- Vіn mriє become mature and independent people.
If you have scored the most pluses of 10, it means that your children are ready for short-lived self-reliance and will not require control.
Beware of deprivation your son alone, so you added "n" to more points, and also like wine:
Mom, take note!
Girl privit) didn’t think that the problem of stretch marks would hit me, but I’ll write about it))) Ale, I’m writing here: How did I get a stretch mark after a fall? I’ll be glad too, if I can help you in my way ...
- ailments - high temperature, vomiting, attacks of chronic ailments (asthma, epilepsy) become a serious threat to life;
- a baby with “special needs” (autism, Rozumova disability, cerebral palsy);
- overworldly cicavius, mischievous, non-hearing, hyperactive;
- dovirlivy shdo strangers;
- timid and quarrelsome, falling into a panic through a loud noise, unresponsive visitors and calls.
Home security technology
Vchinki devoid of on the child's own is important to convey, even if it can cherubate fear, that love's drinking to experiments. Later, it is necessary to establish the rules of safe behavior and rehearse with children's skins of their crotches, without perevantazhuyuchi their own instructions. Then you can leave the apartment with a calm soul.
How to prepare children?
- Get ready ahead of time. From four years, leave the child alone in the child in the winter, looking after her. Give more freedom to the sleepy activity, allowing you to choose the occupation to the soul.
- Start small. First fill the baby for 15-20 minutes, going to the store or for a walk with the dog. Gradually increase the hour of respite: early in the morning, later in the year. At eight fates, a schoolboy can be left with a maximum for the second year.
- Come at once. Be punctual - you promised to turn around at 18.00, therefore, it is necessary to come home exactly on the sixth evening. Young schoolchildren are fighting for the lives of their loved ones. And your punctuality is a miracle butt for children.
- Chi do not punish for the laziness. Having taken the whole apartment in order, the child can control his own good, or inherit his mother or that. Don't be surprised to see your lipstick on your daughter's lips.
- Do not go in the direction of a sleeping baby. Do not "escape" for an hour of daytime sleep, like before, the child willingly sat alone at home. Ignorant of those who were ahead of you about your day ahead, waking up you will forget about you and sneer, not seeing anyone in the apartment of your relatives.
- Think of something to do. Do not deprive children of their own accord, without having propagated them a cicada of roses. Come paint with felt-tip pens, puzzles, typing for modeling, download cartoons or programs for a laptop. Like a child zanudguє, є ymovіrnіst, scho won't pretend or harm yourself.
- Tsіkavtesya, scho vin busy. Turning back home, pay respect to the child, hug, kiss, and then take care of cleaning up or evening. Ask, scho vin robiv, chi htos not coming. Praise for courage and obov'yazkovo compensate for your daily reading of the book, sleepy thunder and walk.
Children, staying alone in an apartment, mourn a priceless message: to start borrowing for themselves, to spend time correctly and fight against powerful fears. Tsі important yakosі obov'yazkovo become in good fortune, if the stench grows up. Teach the child to catch up with all foreign visits, and at the same time you will fill it with a calm heart.
About those, how to teach a child self-reliance, but not to inflict trouble, child psychologist Yulia Ulyanova:
"Discussions TUT" child psychologist Anastasia Shepel:
Alone at home: how can you teach a child safety rules?
All the fathers are on the cusp of a baby. The stink at all you help, may you skrіz know the instructions. Aleditin's growth and it's early early that time is coming, if it is necessary to begin to win self-sufficiency in Christ. Tobto. mothers and tatas have to loosen the ribs of their guardianship and let the crying out for themselves a little farther, lower by “two crocks”. And at such a moment, the fathers themselves think about food, and how many years can you leave a child at home alone? I realized that such food is blamed more often through turboti, and not as an interest. The greater fathers would like to talk about their child all their lives. Ale for the correct development of the people of the cei pіdkhіd nevirniy. You can’t get enough of that old lad, like a girl - a little girl, from a nanny.
Let's take a look at food from different sides.
How many years can you leave a child at home alone officially?
Many children are regulated by the law of the country, de sacking sіm'ya. I need to call. Adzhe zakoni don’t write for free.
The first thing to say is the law of our country: it is possible to deprive a child of one booth without watching the father and other grown-ups no earlier than 14 years.
Tse pov'yazano to us before the food safety. It is necessary to say that in other lands this plank is not very rich in ours. In Europe, children can officially lose one house from 16 years, in Japan from 14 years, and in India - from 11-2 years.
Ale tse shdo of official laws. In fact, everything is a trifle otherwise.
From how many years can you bring in your daughter and prepare her to independence?
In fact, if you need food, you can leave a child at home alone, you need to understand, if the moment comes when the girl is ready to go to independence. What does it mean? Tse means that the child is guilty, but is ready until the decision is made, and she will not be afraid of the presence of the instructions of the elders. At the same time, the donka can clearly see what you can work and what you can’t. The child can be informed about the safety rules in the shop. Until the end of the year, it is the responsibility of the father to prepare smoothly. Everything is done not in one day, but in a stretch of many years. And only then, if the mother understands that the baby is born and is ready to be left alone at home, you can try it inappropriately (not earlier than reaching your own age).
It dawned on me that it’s impossible to unequivocally respond to the chain, because all children are different, and they are born different. That's why it's a decision, in which case it is possible to deprive a child of one booth to be accepted individually.
Can you leave a child at home alone?
Having wised up for yourself, from a little rocky you can leave your child at home alone, you want to wise up, but as a long-term work, you have to work. And here I am immediately warned: not older children are not guilty, without the sight of their elders, they are older, lower for a few years. Tobto. your child already turned 12-14 years old, and go to the store, the parlor, to the work, leaving the blue chi to the donka at home, it is theoretically possible. Ale axis, let’s say, go to the admission for the day or to the dacha for the weekend, having left such a child without picking up the elders, the fathers cannot. There is simply no right. Navit children who have grown up will require the control of grown-ups. Povna independence is admissible only for 18 years.
How to understand that a child is adequately prepared for independence?
Sob virishity, from a little rocky you can leave a child at home alone, you need to be together on one meal, how to understand that a child is ready for independence? Everything is simple here! Child, as for the future, it is unlikely that it is difficult for the direct development of self-reliance, endowment with offensive qualities:
- Wines do not often get grown to greys;
- Vin rarely shows respect for elders;
- Vіn building vіrіshuvati drіbnі pоbutovі nutrition itself (go to the toilet, brush your teeth, drink water thinly);
- Do not be afraid to sleep by your own room with the light extinguished;
- Do not panic, as if for a second mom went to the bank;
- Building decision on school and home rights.
In order to assess the readiness of a wet child to an independent life, to simply wait for her. And remember that the child will need help and advice from grown-ups over the world, it is necessary to add respect to this moment. The more advanced the child requires the supra-mundane guardianship of the elders, the more folding it will call to independence.